Look! a post written and published in a timely manner 🙂
For the first time in FOREVER, we went out for the evening with friends. The kids had a ‘kid party’ where I put my trust in their collective good sense and left them with snacks and 2 bottles of 7up and unbreakable buy quite pretty wine glasses. It was a bit more of a party then I expected because a friend going with us suddenly had his kids and we had already invited a #1 friend so we had 6 kids. We got home at 12:30 and they were all in bed but nobody was asleep. Based on footsteps they saw the headlights and scampered. The house was in good order so I’m really pleased with how that all worked out, although, I miss having my ‘midnight’ with them, but, things change as they age and I need to be ok with that.
As for us, we went out to a local party that had no cover and drink/food specials. I *really* wanted to go to a roaring 20’s theme event but we didn’t get tickets so I just wore my outfit anyway. I was happy with the outfit, especially my hair, and got tons of compliments from strangers. We went with a little group of close friends and we all dressed up and more or less had a party within a party but it was still fun to be out. Midnight toast and a dance and then home again because I only trust the kids so long.
Given my age and year correlation, hitting a landmark 40 in 2020 is a big reason to pull out the reflect couch but I just have not given it that much thought. Lars and I started dating just after New Year 2000 so our relationship is always marked by new years for me. This is my first full year on the school board and I feel like I know what I’m doing much more now. I’m tempting fate here but I generally feel like I know more of what I’m doing overall. We are much more settled in the house, PTO and kid school are going well, general relationships with friends and family are pretty good. Sure there is room to grow and also things I have to accept like hormones invading the body of #1 but realistically they are all good kids and I have a nice group of friends. I’m in good health and I’m able to do most of what I want to, I almost feel like I’m wasting potential because I’m not doing enough! Over the next few weeks I’m going to give the past year, decade, and 20 years the reflection it disserves; I blame the flu for not doing it already.
If I didn’t give a lot of thought to what I’ve done, I’ve given almost less to what I’m going to do. I’m ok with letting a path emerge. I did realize that I spent every single day of my 30’s managing kids and changing a lot of diapers. I can probably get away with not changing a diaper in my 40’s and that is something for sure. I feel like there are a few options worth looking into and this might be the year (or decade) to actually look harder.
Just writing this all has me thinking about the ups and downs over the past year and I’m mostly proud of where I am right now. I have not been passive even though I’ve let opportunities pass. Sometimes I am wistful of what I did not do or did not chase but I am ok with that (most of the time). Maybe there is a Kate in a parallel universe doing all the things, who knows.
So I started this at 10 am and it is nearly 8 so if I want to publish on the day I said it was I need to just publish. Our New Years Day was mellow fun, friends dropped over, games were played, I put lots of food into my new air fryer and we had a nice vacation at home day. Tomorrow the kids go back to school and I hope to get back on track, I miss my routine.
Cheers to 2020! If you have any ideas on what I should5 do I’ll consider all options in the comments. Are you up to something great? I’m all ears.
So proof people read because I got quite a few calls about my last post. Good to know that I normally keep the bar high for positive writing. In reality like everyone, my ups and downs are pretty on par with most, I just usually keep it off the record. Thank you to those who took a second to check on me though, it was just what I needed.
Christmas time is its own type of magic and we are keeping up with our traditions even while we add in new ones or let some drift away.
This year we have 4 countdowns to Christmas; Like other years, Santa’s beard is trimmed daily and each day is basically a positive and selfless item and so far so good. On ‘write a nice note for someone’ day I was gifted with some super sweet notes. I don’t have a picture this year but Santa is colored with style and his hat is a work of art (literally)
Two new count downs join the group. My mom sent a classic advent pop open calendar with a little candy and line from the Christmas story in each. Our post office got a little aggressive so all the candy actually fell out so it now lives in a tin and the fun is opening the door and reading the passage. #3 noticed that they all had ‘some guys name and some numbers’ at the bottom and I filled her in on how the Bible works. She then decided to read the bible. She will not be discouraged and the copy we have (that nobody knows where it came from) actually has pronunciation guides so it is not all that hard to read, except you know, for how hard it is to read. It is an odd outcome but I don’t mind if she reads.
Mom’s contribution was in semi reaction to my dad deciding that his daughters would enjoy a tea advent calendar. I don’t know about my sisters but I certainly enjoy it. The kids open the tea but after dinner, I make a little pot of interesting tea and we all have a little cup. Most have been really really good and overall I enjoy the process. On tea tastes like forest sweepings but 1 out of 10 isn’t bad. #3 likes all of them, #2 likes the ‘normal’ tea that happened to be one of the days and #1 has enjoyed a few and not liked a few. I’ve liked them all (except that one, pine needles are not for drinking).
The 4th countdown is the one that I remember best from my growing up, the 4 Sundays of Advent. It is a short little lighting of the candle and saying of prayer and singing a song but we follow it with a family dinner and all the kids love it. Of course, there was negotiations about who would lite what candle but they mostly worked it out and it is a nice part of our weekend. If all goes well, the 4th Sunday will be celebrated in Sayville this year.
There are a few things that have drifted. We don’t read Christmas books out loud anymore. In some ways, the tea took the spot but our bedtime has changed and they just don’t read with us anymore. It is a little sad but I’m overall glad they can all read solo and usually choose to (even the bible sometimes). We also won’t have the opportunity to celebrate Hannaka because we will be gone during the 8 nights. I’m sure we could find a way in NY but really it was about sharing that evening with our friend.
Finally, a Christmas event that accidentally started last year persists. In an odd hybrid of Scandinavian culture that surrounds us here, and, the semi detestable elf on the shelf the Tonte’s we made last year have started moving around the house and even brought gifts on the 1st of December. They are undeniably adorable and they are NOT watching us for Santa nor do they get into trouble in the night. They simply move about and create a magic moment every afternoon when they race inside to see where they moved to during the day. They are a good addition and a very low-stress magic maker.
We have the tree up and trimmed, decorations around and about, Santa has been visited, town tree has been officially lit and I am nearing the end of shopping. We have a plan for hand made gifts and they are in process. Each year we do different things so hard to say ‘tradition’ quite but this year the girls are taking the lead on projects they want. I’m glad to see the craft gene expressing itself! This weekend we will be doing the majority because next week we are busy every night of the week and heading off to NY on Friday.
Time to finish up and make the tea then chase 3 good girls into bed.
Very pleased to say my favorite Veteran is back on American soil enjoying her family after her little working vacation for more than half a year.
Thanks to everyone who’s job makes the world a better place. Today we recognize those in the US military for their commitment to the goal. My second favorite veteran said something really insightful that I want to put out to more people in the world; He feels very appreciated and thanked every time he wears his uniform and is glad he lives in an era where the military is respected. He, unfortunately, sees the disrespect and scorn heaped on police right now and asks that you also thank them for their service and recognize that every day they are at risk and that risk is for the protection of us all.
I’m sure there is a crossover between military and police and today is for the military but since he said that I’ve been extra careful about also thanking my police and I’m marking my calendar for January 9th to give them their due.
I hope everyone had a great night with their trick or treating or hanging at home being cozy. For once, we had a day go *as planned* with nearly no issues or problems and it was fun from beginning to end.
Kids went off to school, 1 in costume, 2 bringing costumes, and a bag full of treats to share (if they were allowed). ::aside:: I’m glad I’m getting this teacher for #3 third so I already know the ropes because there was zero communication on what permutation or combination of holiday fun was happening in her room. She is the more kind teacher so I asked for her but she isn’t as on top of the note sending. ::tangent over:: I collected them under bright and not so cold sky and we zipped home to wait for Lars to finish work.
Everyone knows the drill and thankfully they all still love to pose for me. We did a photo shoot for each costume and then had a meat and cheese tray for early dinner and went off to meet friends and then traveled in a mob house to house.
This year #1 went as Athena. She is still in deep love with the Greek myths and legends but at least this goddess had some very easy to identify items so at least 3 people could guess who she was.
Medusa head shield, spear, and then general Greek-ish clothing fit for a Goddess. Her shield was drawn by me but colored and contoured by her. It also has the ‘feed me’ feature where candy went into the mouth and we had a ziplock bag on the back. We had to empty her fairy regularly into a normal size bag but making Madusa puke out candy was also kinda fun.
Her outfit is really quite pretty and while not mundanely reusable it will absolutely go into the garb collection. Her costume was 100% hand made (except for the laurel leaf hairpiece) and you can’t have a real hand made Halloween without a little tin foil.
#2 As ever, is a little on the wild side. She is a Pirate Parrot with a pair of Pistols. It was a fun costume to collect and I’m really happy with how it came together.
I think we hit the blend of Pirate and Parrot nicely. She told one friend that her mom was a pirate and her dad was a parrot… well, maybe we work on the reality of genetics some other day.
I’m really happy with the mask. It is all fleece (leftover bits from the wings and tail) and I machine sewed the majority and hand sewed the beak on and into a curve. This is not actually the best picture ever because usually it fit right up over the silly pirate logo on the hat for a pretty cool look but I wanted to get that smile in the picture.
She had fun with the pistols too although they did get put in their holsters and forgotten about for the rest of the night (thankfully). I think having hands free to hold a candy bag and ring doorbells is an important trait in a costume.
Hard to say this is a totally hand made costume since she is wearing a red T-shirt and normal pants and a store-bought hat/pistols, however, I made the wings and tail and mask. So hand made parrot, store-bought pirate? Regardless this won’t have too much future use other than dress up box but I might remake the fleece into cozy pillowcases.
#3 went a bit classic – she is A devil (not The Devil). She is certainly impish plenty of the time so pretty suiting persona to put on.
She declined wings or a cape or a fluffy skirt in favor of the very classic horns and a tail.
Her costume is possibly the least homemade as it is overall very simple. I couldn’t resist the sparkle headband horns and it came with the pitchfork. We found a blouse at goodwill that was the perfect color and I really loved the lace since it would dress up a dull red dress nicely. I cut the shirt apart and resewed it to fit. The tail was my only from scratch item – tube with stuffing and a bit of wire attached to a ribbon to tie on. The tail did end up with some abuse over the last few weeks but 12 gauge wire is pretty flexible stuff.
Her outfit is technically just a dress but I have low expectations of her wearing it not as dress up. Who knows! you might see it at Christmas, it is a very festive red. Hornes were declared too itchy so they might get donated right away so another little devil can have the pleasure next year. Overall she was comfortable and warm since I made it roomy enough to go completely over her winter coat (and I’m glad I did)
Here are all three, having some fun while we waited for 5:30. You can see in the background my photo wall of every costume, it is a real fun project and it is so fun to see the costumes every year.
I had been crossing my fingers the weather would be ok for the outside walk. It was nearly perfect, clear and crisp and not too cold. Sure we had to be creative about bundling up and double socks but everyone was warm. We went to the same neighborhood as last year that really does it up, tons of kids running around and superb decorating and hospitality (fires and warming spots). We came home at 7:30 and popped in a pizza to eat while watching a Halloween movie. Everyone was happily asleep by 10 and I wasn’t far behind. I love having an outlet for creating something fun and helping them become characters they love.
Today the decorations come down but I’ll take pictures before I do for a slightly late Halloween House tour tomorrow.
I love my blog enough to pay $13 whole dollars for an upgraded membership. I realized some of the reasons I was not blogging was because I was nearly out of space and pictures really do make the story. So, after the 3million and third targeted add with discounts and ‘last chance’ notes from WordPress I did it. I have no idea what all will change but I have more space and that is what I was looking for.
What about the daily post? Well, that didn’t work out this year. I’m as disappointed as you are (btw I’m assuming nobody was all that disappointed). When last we talked I was suffering from a truly annoying mouth issue that actually persisted for a full 7 days and now I have the creepy crud of congestion. These are not conditions conducive to happy chatting online. Beyond those minor annoiances, the week was really great and super full.
Thanksgiving felt like the end of a marathon. One that started so long ago when we first decided to put the house on the market and then escalated when we were prepping, then selling and building then moving and homeless, then traveling, then moving in and figuring out where things go and a truly giant list of things to do. No sooner were we in the house the kids were to school and the election tasks started, Halloween, and a rather full social calendar of weekend events culminating last week with the first big house party and 8 out of town guests and then Thanksgiving with more guests. No wonder I feel tired and out of planning energy! Sunday I sat there and realized that I have nothing major on the immediate horizon.
Does that mean I am doing nothing? No way, just nothing like building a house or moving. I have a vague hope that I’ll be catching up on the active to-do list to the point where I can get back to a normal week that includes meal planning and working out and generally not just chasing the ball down hill constantly.
So how was your thanksgiving?
here are some pictures because I have space now