Blog every day in November is going to be extra challenging this year since I’ve fallen down to once a week recently… I occasionally reflect on the fashion of webpages/blog/online journals that have come and gone and feel like they are maybe coming back again. Oh well, I’ll keep doing what I’m doing here in my corner.
Today you join me on the day I celebrate the lives of the people who have left this earthly coil. A little All Saints day, a little Dia de Muerta, a little bit all my own. The point is to remember the people and teach our kids about those they never met or those that died when they were young. Sure, as a memory comes up in the year I share it with the kids but this is the day we make it a point to go through the book.
Speaking of the book. I was worried I would not find it in time… Last week was the push to get the book shelving up and over the past few days, I worked on clearing all the ‘house stuff’ boxes that were hanging out in the room. Today I went and got the top 5 boxes in the ‘book’ pile in the garage and it is luck or fate but the 3rd box opened had my album for today. I added my grandmother, the first addition in years, and now I’m thinking about what to get to celebrate her.
I usually try and bring in a special food for the person to share with the kids. My Grandmother though was on a perpetual diet most of my life with her, with a memorable highlight of a liquid shake diet that looked (and smelled) like chocolate cement. She uniquely liked to eat maza bread but I know that isn’t exactly something she enjoyed for the taste, and, isn’t really available in our area. When I lived with her in Malta she cooked a bunch of things that blur together in my memory except for when they were super spicy. My grandmother was absolutely not a baker (to me at least)… When I give it real thought most of what I remember is that she enjoyed what was put in front of her and my grandfather making her toast and tea so to honor them both I think that toast and tea might be what we do today.
I’m excited about the challenge this month, good timing since it will be a crazy and fun month to document. The election next Tuesday, a giant group of house guests coming mid-month and our first official party at the house. Most of my family will visit for Thanksgiving so it will be plenty of running around, family events, and getting the house ready.
I’m about 17 different places. I think I’m developing ADD because I do a little bit on a project then run to the next thing and do something and off to the next.
Yesterday I laid out all the Halloween costumes to make sure I had all the bits and pieces and I didn’t so I had a crafty afternoon. Still a bit to do but nothing too major. When I post daily in November I’ll have DIY Batgirl, Poison Ivy, and Supergirl posts. I’m already too late for this year, might as well do them right instead of rushing.
I’m mid-major library wall project. We would be further along but we got all the shells up and decided the center unit was too small so we had to go back to the store and that is a trip all on its own.
Campaigning is an on and off thing. I’m not a ‘major candidate’ but I still feel like I need to attend everything and keep an eye on issues on Facebook. This grabs chunks of time and attention at unexpected times.
I have an entire post in my head about how we have entered the ‘taxi’ phase of parenthood. A quarter of my brain is dedicated to the logistics of getting 3 other humans to the places they need/want/have to be. It is fun overall and the things I hear in the car are priceless, especially when I have an extra kid in there.
Random house projects are still chugging along. The garage has quite a bit of shelving now and we can, most importantly, park in there now. I have acquired curtain hardware for the entire house, and fabric for upstairs, and we are working through getting that done. Given we live in a giant field, privacy isn’t that much of an issue and now that the sun isn’t rising until past 7am I think we actually waited out the situation. Curtains might be waiting until spring when I get a 5am face full of sunrise.
Family and friend dynamics, like always, are ever in need of attention. Happily given but those who feel maintaining kids, marriages, friends and family and hobby relationships take no effort might look around one day and have very few. Same with the poor neglected blog; I feel guilty that I can’t do more with everyone, the house is like a newborn! Thankfully I hope everyone who matters understands.
And that is all I have time for today. I need to get back to all the things before they get worse and spawn dangerous things for the neglect…
Current status; We have a roof that is nearly all done, we have (I’ve been told) something called “foam and grade” going on. We also have evidence of plumbing in the places plumbing is expected and also some odd holes.
Next; I don’t have to guess because we got something appearing to be like a schedule with dates and actions and next up really really is the floor on or around 4/23. Between now and then is more floor prep and laying the in-floor heat.
Status; 300 of 1000 <- I gave a big bump because now I have a list of what will be done
Holes… to hide things inside?
All the plumbing parts! I can id a few, some have name tags, some are mysterious but I’m sure there is a plan.
All this was done in and around and despite a massive blizzard. We got 18 inches of snow over 2 days in a crazy storm. I’m not sure if it was ‘fortunately’ but we left town on Friday and driving back on Saturday night it was not a pleasant drive but we actually missed all the really bad snow. Reports of the storm before we got to MN were whiteout conditions but by the time we got there around 9pm it was not snowing at all. We actually got lucky with that because it was merely a pause and by the next day we were in blizzard part 2 and the driving was 10x worse from where we were. People thought we were crazy not spending the night but we got lucky.
The snow was so bad we had a snow day for school on Monday. I had a series of meetings in our state government to try and get better/rational school funding and these meetings don’t come together easily so I was NOT going to miss it. Therefore, kids got to go too. They got tons of positive comments about being good so it worked out and I hope we were heard.
For anyone counting, this is the 8th Monday they have had off since Jan 1…
My life otherwise centers around cleaning my house and then sitting quietly until I need to leave because there is a showing. I have possibly never cleaned it so much, I am getting pretty efficient at it, and, I’ve finished 3 books over the past 2 weeks. When people ask me if the house sold yet it feels a lot like when people would ask if we were pregnant yet – both situations where I’ve done all I can and I’m not really able to affect the results much more, and, saying ‘no’ somehow feels like a personal failure. Today is the 2 week mark and I’m as sick of it as anyone but sometime soon the right person will make the right decision. Telling me about how your aunt’s cousin sold her house the day it was listed is a lot like telling someone in the throws of infertility about how someone got pregnant by walking past their husband. Sure, tell me those things when I’m under contract, we can swap war stories, but right now I’m not in a place to hear that. Same goes for horror stories like when a house took 6 months to sell or how buyers fall through at the last second… Trust me, I won’t keep it a secret, when we have an offer worth talking about I will tell everyone!
So that is pretty much it. I am in a limbo that includes a lot of dusting and vacuuming on this house and watching and picking things on the new house. I feel like a broken record over here.
Any positive thoughts you can spare for this process are appreciated! I would love to just move on to the next phase where I can *just* worry about moving and building and summer and not SELLING.
3 and done, just like my kids. See my Monday post for more background, and, here is my final installment (although I might make a quote a weekly thing, sooo many good ones out there)
Rules; Thank the person who challenged you, post a quote, tag 3 others, for 3 days in a row.
Thank you, Fancy Paper – you are right, these are fun to post
I didn’t come this far to only go this far
I found this quote last year and have found dozens of uses for it over time but today I tried to find if it had an original author. I’m going to say the origin is unclear but it has been said by plenty of big names including Tom Brady (a pro football star) and Mick Kremlen (fitness guru) but I can’t imagine that they were the originals. Either way, it is a great ‘stick with it’ phrase.
The funny thing about quotes as I have noticed over time is that sometimes the opposite is equally true. The one I often use is “don’t throw good money after bad” meaning that just because you invested so far if it is not worth doing; just stop. Also, a good one, and a favorite of my mom “the first rule of getting out of a hole is to stop digging” . It depends on the situation whether you need to just finish the thing, or, recognize that it is time to stop. Personally, I tend to hold onto certain things like friends and hobbies for ages, I place real value in the persistence of a long-term relationship, or, experience gained over a long-term hobby. One can come and go but never quits. This is probably why I’m still acquainted with friends from elementary school, and, I’m still blogging way way after the peek of popularity.
Tagging – Please please, if you are reading this and you want to do it, consider yourself tagged. I know the ‘left out’ feeling of not being picked and seriously, I’m giving thought to my picks but also consider my brain addled by lack of sleep and focus in 55 other directions at all times. If you do it, put a link in the comments and I will be overjoyed to read your quotes. Seriously, I actually subscribe to a quote a day blog, I like them.
Miss Zoot – This is one of the first blogs I started reading ever, we are often on the same page about what is going on in our lives and I always enjoy reading her. I tag her now not with any real hope she will do this because she tends not to, but, because I recommend reading her thoughts.
Unbound Roots – In contrast, this is a blog I just started reading because it was tagged in a Fancy Paper post and found that she is from 2 towns away. Her style is fun and well written and she even edits her work (unlike me. I edit for work, here I write fast and between projects)
Amanda’s Plate – a cooking blog I found while researching how to make a Muslim girl my daughter is friends with comfortable in our home a year ago. While Amanda is Muslim, she mostly just talks about great looking food. Again, finding another person who is more the same than different is one of the great things about the internet.
This concludes my 3 quote posts for this challenge. I look forward to reading other people entries if they feel so inclined. I also am looking forward to getting my life back and with that, more time for things I enjoy like blogging.
Wow, I’m so behind! Well, I’m keeping it together in real life, just neglecting my online duties. These are the things I have to recognize but don’t have time to do right at the moment. They are on my list:
#1 – I was nominated for a blogging award. I’m always flattered when people think my blog is good 🙂 I’ll be doing a better job on receiving it and passing it on ASAP.
#2 – I was also tagged for a 7 days and 7 black and white picture (no people) challenge and I also really want to do it. It just has to wait a couple days.
#3 – I still intend to do the blog every day in November, I need to sign up officially but I again, miss blogging and even have a list now in my book of lists of topics to write about.
Here is what I have been keeping up on; The Election is under a week away, this time next week I will know if all the work went into something productive or if the people who hate taxes won. Seriously, I don’t like taxes, I do like safe streets and our town moving in the right direction. The schools need to be funded. period. When I hear someone complain in the paper about how their taxes will increase by $500 a year I do a little mental math and see that their house is APPRAISED for TAX (not what it would sell on the market for mind you) at over $500,000.00. The tax is under $10 per 100k of home value. Please don’t cry on my shoulder about how you can’t afford it as you sip your $5 latte and type letters to the editor on your brand new laptop. I digress… We pledged a positive campaign and we are sticking by it.
In this last week we have a rally on Saturday, we are doing some last minute press in the paper, and I’m increasing the volume on all our social media. I do hope it works, the alternative is really not fun.
Halloween. I don’t know if the kids noticed but this year we didn’t do as much as normal but I still pulled off a few fun things. The world also wasn’t helping, 2 events we were supposed to go to got rained out. They were all super excited heading out to school today for their Halloween adventures. 1 is going to the pumpkin patch so she had to put on cold weather gear since this week we are at freezing temps. 1 is in the costume parade and 1 is watching and I’ll be there too taking pictures. Tonight we are going to trick or treat door to door with friends and then go to the fantastic indoor party we love. I’m also making the skull-shaped pizza for dinner. Last night was mummy dogs, I’ve been sneaking spiders and eyeballs (fake) into lunches and snacks all last week, and today this is their snack.
I also gave them the once yearly treat of cereal with marshmallows. Who does not love Halloween theme cereal!
And as always we did the shirts for 2 weeks before, here is the final day and while I didn’t do my normal daily picture this outfit was too cute to ignore.
we did the pumpkin carving thing, only one did actual carving and the others painted. It looks pretty idealized in the picture but in reality, I was so tired I could hardly help so they got free reign on design.
We also did get out to two events, a trunk or treat that had a fun little ‘spooky’ music play after. Given that it was at a church they could not resist throwing in some all saints day things and that was actually pretty cool. They also let the kids do a bell song and even with no practice (they held up cards for the color bell) they were ok. Some kids just rang the entire time but they must have special church bells that work together so it was loud but not horrible.
the other event was the Highschool spooky concert. I love that they get so into it and even though the selection of Halloween style music arranged for a band, orchestra and chorus must be limited, they have been different every year.
And I think this is long enough. I have to get out and do some things before the events for today get rolling. Tomorrow we start daily blogging so I’ll put up the costumes in their completeness 🙂 Hope you all have a happy Halloween.
Last week you turned 5 and it happened to be in the middle of us getting ready to move so it was not an ideal day but I think you really did like it. Becki took you out for the day and you came back tired and happy but 5 year olds don’t stop – you went right out to Jujitsu with your sisters and came home exhausted and ready for cake (brownies) and bed. I wonder if your whole 5th year will be as crazy.
You are the child I think I have spent the most time with. Somehow though you feel like you need me most still. It is a little the age, a little bit you. When I am around and something goes wrong I am the embodiment of a bunker, a band-aid, and teddy bear all in one person. I have seen you work out problems and not fall apart so I know you can, but, I don’t mind being here for you always.
Preschool is over for the year and you did great. Not a bit of separation issues beyond an extra hug every day. Your teacher Ms. Kayla was fantastic and loved you and you loved her. Now you know every letter and number and can write most of them very well. You love to write actually, you write all the time. Sometimes even on walls… Your hobby right now is to cut interesting shapes out of paper so your cutting skills are very good. When you draw and paint, and that is as often as I let you, you are making people and families and noticing odd little things about a person and adding them into the pictures. Gone are the days of abstract, hello 10,000 pictures of our family 🙂 You are also getting decent at sounding out small words when you are in the mood, I hope you have fun in Kindergarten next year.
You did great with the carpool and you and Reilly are super good friends even though you are pretty different kids. In school you made some true friends, friends I get the feeling we will be seeing a lot of over the next 6+ years. I love when kids make friends completely outside of family influence – these are not the children of my friends or the siblings of sisters friends. Selfishly, this usually means new friends for me because cool kids usually have cool parents and 5-year-olds can’t do playdates alone. You think you can though, you think you can do nearly anything your sisters can and your TV and music taste has been artificially aged. Where Niamh was singing Laurie Berkner and Disney at this age, you sing “Way down Below” and “Cheap Thrills”. The best was when you sang the same bit of another song; “1,2,3 your gonna come back to me, I’m the best baby you will ever ever see” when you were sure it was just a counting song for babies. Oh well, that is what happens with #3. You also have a better vocabulary and listen to audio books intended for kids 8+. I never know how much sinks in but we recently listened to a Greek Myth book and just yesterday you told me that Zeus was God’s (Baby Jesus God you made clear) Godfather. I’ll take that, seems like a realistic situation…
As #3 you do tend to almost always have sisters around but this past two years you had significant time as the only child all day while they were at school. Yes, we did tons together and you did want (and get) books and snuggles but for large chunks of time you like to do your OWN thing. You don’t even want the puppy out with you. I’m not sure what fantastic game is going on but you will swing on the swings and run around the yard for about 40 min happy as can be. Same with your room – you go in there and have elaborate games with all the toys. Eventually, you get bored and want to do things with me and there is almost always things to do. You are probably the best at cleaning and loading the dishwasher because we do a lot of that. Sometimes you even do chores all on your own, other times you still claim to be the baby. Your view on life is usually 110%
Speaking of babies. You still LOVE them. You don’t actually have to have your 2 baby dolls at ALL times anymore and you actually are ok with missing any favorite toy at bedtime for the most part, but you still love them. Our friend had a real baby and we would watch him and a real baby was a horse of a different color… you did have some jealousy for sure but you also had that internal protect the small thing instinct and did plenty to help him be happy and me take care of him. I’m really glad we got that experience for you and I’m glad we could help a friend.
Jumping over to gross motor (ha ha) this was a big year for you. You can now swim pretty ok; we started in January and you didn’t really even want to get in the pool and now you bob and actually swim. You are well on the way to really swimming, thanks, YMCA. You are learning your bike but like your sisters, you are faster on a scooter or even just running. You can monkey bar the whole way across and you will jump off way too many things. You started Jujitsu 2 weeks ago and you’re not quite sure about it but I needed time to pack so you needed to go. You also just started archery and knife throwing with Dad, he says your are pretty good. For a large chunk of the summer and fall, we did Pokemon hunting, great reason for a walk and we walked all over town, miles a day most nice days. I’m glad to have 3 active girls and I hope I’m a good role model even if I can’t do the monkey bars.
I’ve been writing on this for a few days so it is getting long. I should really stop so here are some quick other things that were you at 4; you still wanted to sleep with me and would often sneak in around 3am. You fall asleep really fast most nights but 1 in 10 you stay up until 11. You still have allergies and all colds turn into nasty chest issues and you need your machine. Your favorite color is changeable, you love Addie and Reilly as your friends, and you still take baths mostly and are growing out of hair twirling so we might see you with longer hair someday. In your 4th year you went to Hawaii, NY, PA, ND, WI Dells and WI in general, and all over MN. You are not the weakest link on a road trip and you are getting pretty good at operating all the electronics solo. There are still tantrums but you actually lean more toward surly sadness. You mimic and tag along and drive your sisters crazy but you also play with them – the destruction phase is over. You still put way too many things in your mouth and absently pick at things until they are in bits. We get you gum to try and help and it actually does. Your well child is today and I expect them to report that you are 40lb because we just weighed you at the vet Tuesday. You love to snuggle and cuddle and even if it is tiring for me, I am still the answer to most of the problems of the world for you.