Like a 19th century heroine
Does anyone else remember all the scenes in Bronte books (and that era) where the lady of the house spends time daily on ‘her correspondences’. For some reason, those scenes have begun to truly resonate with me because at this point I need to actually set aside time in my day to correspond with various people.
I don’t actually sit at an antique Queen Ann writing desk in a sunbeam and put pen to paper, however, I do, in the course of my normal life, have several written correspondence to keep up. Maybe in the 1970s and 80’s this was done via phone because that was faster but as a product of modern technology, I find myself preferring to compose a note (text or email) rather than call.
I also end up actually *writing* more than I ever thought I would when I was learning to type in 1st grade. Invitations to parties for kids, permission slips to sign, forms for school and activities and camps to fill out (x3 usually). Notes to and from teachers in folders and planners, a decent pen is still part of my kit regardless of my tablet, phone, and computer.
Just today I sat (in a sunbeam) and checked in with someone I’m helping buy a house, letting her know what the banker needed. I texted a mom friend about an afterschool activity. I set aside an hour a day to do email ranging from setting up pot luck meals to following up on builder items (houses are never done). Facebook is another 21st-century version of keeping in touch with one’s friends and relatives – checking in on certain people, posting encouraging notes, birthday greetings, adding to a conversation about this or that. In the 19th century, people wrote to each other because travel was harder, now we write to each other because time face to face visit is still hard.
The value to face to face time is still very true. However, in order to keep up to date with friends and family in order to have someone to visit one must figure out how to best communicate and in so many ways nothing much has changed between 1919 and 2019 except the speed.