Archive | May 20, 2016

Zoe 6

Dear Zoe

Here we are, you are 6, officially documented by the doctor and everything.  You are 3’9″ and 46lb and meet or beat all the stats they want except memorizing our phone number – want to guess what the iPad password is going to be next?  You also have perfect BMI – long may that last!


I just went back and re-read the other notes I wrote for you.  Basically, you are just MORE you this year!  You still are a loud talker, you still are the most responsible at remembering what you need for school and even packing it.  Over the past year you have continued to love art and surprise me with your drawings all the time.  They are detailed and clever and I’m not sure what the average 5-year-olds art looks like but I’m happy with yours and more importantly, you are very happy with yours too.


Kindergarten is just about over for you, just 2 weeks to go.  I can say with confidence that you can now read.  You can’t read every word yet but you have a very solid foundation and ability to sound out words and you also WANT to read.  You read signs and menus and my notes so we can’t tell you that places don’t have ice cream because you can read that they do.  You also have developed an appreciation for the different values of coins.  Even though you know that a quarter is worth 25 pennies, you will still do anything for the promise of a penny (I’m sure that won’t last).  Except clean the car, for that you charge a dollar but you actually do a good enough job you earn that dollar.  Oh yeah, I do tricky mom things and get you to clean the car 🙂  If it is a challenge or a game you are all for it, if I just tell you to do it you will dissolve into a puddle of “I can’t” but sometimes you just decide to go do something without being asked.

Our only worry for you is that you worry.  You have been really good at taking a concept and applying it all over, you were doing that last year too, but too often right now it is going down a path of anxiety.  For example; this year when the France bombings happened our flags were at half mast, you asked why, I gave you a true but not graphic explanation, your first reaction was to worry that it would happen here and to make you feel better I told you it probably would not because the bad guys are mostly interested in places that are way more big and important than here.  The first words out of your mouth after that were “they are going to get NY…”  followed by a list of people in NY you love including friends we only see a few times a year but you don’t forget people.  Someday you will learn about 9-11 and I dread the day because you probably won’t want to get on a plane for a year.  Other fears explored this year; fire, house fire, losing all ones toys in a fire, hurricanes, volcanos (and resulting fire), earthquakes and tornados.  Get the feeling you learned about natural disasters at school this year?

Aside from the anxiety, you are absolutely fearless.  I know that sounds weird but I have absolute confidence in your ability to do things.  You can climb, you can run around the block (2min is your record) and you monkey bar so well we had to make a set inside for the winter.  I trust that I could send you to the store and you would do fine but that isn’t allowed.  You are fine on the bus, at school, at jujitsu and I have zero fear dropping you off for a party or playdate.  You went to your first overnight camping trip with girlscouts and was 100% smiles.


Socially you have a few BFF’s and seem to get along with everyone.  You have a strange love to befriend people that have some troubles and you insist the little boy in your class is your friend even when he punched you in the face and bit you and often breaks your things.  I have to admit, I asked for you to not be allowed to sit with him because you WANT to and it just isn’t good.  I know he is working on it and his mom is super nice but I hope to never, ever, ever, hear the phrase “I like him even though he hits me” again!

Fashion is still your thing and you even stopped hating polka dots.  You get in a run of wanting the exact same thing every day like the same bow in your hair or the same sweater and your fashion choices are actually really awesome.  The 30 piece wardrobe works for you because you like what you like and wear it.  I can’t guess what you might like in the store because it is only rational to you but you are ok when I say no about something too.  Shopping with you is mostly fun even.



these bows, every day for months



Recently you have been very concerned with things being ‘fair’.  Can’t really help you there but I’m trying because we are not all the same and we can’t do the exact same for everyone.  Maybe it’s a middle child thing or just a 6 thing but you unbridled joy at all things is certainly tempered by your ire at any perception of unfairness.  Unfortunately, you are surrounded by a big sister that just can do more and a little sister who needs more help.  I agree, it really isn’t fair, but I would love to find a way for you to stop saying it daily.

Overall you are a loving sister.  You think about what everyone wants and needs and you try to help.  You can pour apple juice (that you still love with the fire of 1000 suns), completely dress yourself.  Shower and teeth only need minor help.  You can now tie your shoes and use the microwave and mostly make scrambled eggs.  For some reason, you are against learning how to use a knife but you eat better this year. We work on that, giving you points for trying new things (or trying thins you claim to hate but we know you like).  You are the best with reward charts and even quit biting your nails (for a while) with a chart.


Your favorite games are anything you can convince someone to play with you from Rampage to candy land and of course uno.  You want to be as big as Niamh but you also do like to play with Fiona too (sometimes).  When I have a project you are my helper Zebra and I almost forget your real age!  In the past year we have gone to Pennsic, Texas, and a long visit to NY.  Our good friends moved here so there are two new loving adults in your life and you also got to learn about breakups from another good adult friend and you had an excellent example because his new girlfriend is awesome AND we are all still friend with his former girlfriend and she is someone you always love due to your Z name bond.  Other people might read this and think I’m giving you extra credit for understanding these things but I’m here, it is totally true, you understood, asked questions, and came to the conclusion that they weren’t ‘true love‘ but can still be friends since you only get 1 true love and you can have lots of friends that works.


I think I could go on for ages.  You are a great kid – frustrating sometimes but insightful – once you said I don’t smile enough so I’m working on that just for you.

Love you Zozo bean

Mom and Dad

Ps.  this is how you live life all year long;