I just seriously used the area of a triangle theorem to figure out how many feathers I need to cover so Zoe’s wings.
A=1/2b * h
I recently read this NYTimes article that more or less says that there are now schools with a policy against parents bringing things forgotten at home.
As always, the interesting part is in the comments where there is debate about this….
Is it right for the school to dictate this sort of policy?
I can see that the constant flow of parents to the school with forgotten items can get in the way of running a school, not to mention kids coming to the office to get it, or, parents disrupting class time to bring the forgotten item. On the other hand, a flat out policy AGAINST really feels like there will be trouble when super allergy child forgets their lunch and gets to starve because they can’t eat school lunch and nobody can bring the lunch.
When is a child ‘old enough’ to be responsible?
I don’t know… there are people who say suffering young makes them more responsible faster but then there are adults that are still constantly forgetting things. Did that adult have an indulgent parent, or, are they just forgetful? I know some kids just loose or forget all the time – luckily my kids seem to have it more or less under control but I also remind and I’ve brought things to school a few times over the past few years. In my opinion, I’m not bringing anything that I told them 5x to put in their backpack but I like that I get to make that call.
At what point are you hurting the child by helping, or, hurting them by letting the swing?
Another big I don’t know. I can see the rule basically as a shield for parents, they can’t bring something so their child knows there is no bail out coming. The child can’t spend half the day hopeful that their parent will appear with the missing form/lunch/homework/snowpants and be disappointed in the end when the parent does not turn up (either by decision or inability or just didn’t even notice the missing item). In that way the rule is a good thing, all kids know that no adults can or will bail them out at school.
There is also the case where it isn’t the kids fault… Lars forgot to pack a snack for Niamh one morning because he didn’t even know she needed one and I was at an early meeting. I was going by the school anyway so I dropped the snack in her locker; ironically – she never saw it and went snackless anyway. However, she saw it when she packed up and knew that I was looking out for her. Opportunities to be a hero are pretty slim and I’m glad to take the moment where I can.
It is an interesting and many-sided situation. I know as an adult I hate the feeling I get when I forget something I need like my wallet or my lunch or phone. It puts me off my game and I think that I bring stuff for my kids when its important because I don’t want them missing a day of focus in school because they are worried about it. I’m also sure I’m completely overthinking this but if you read the article I’m not alone in overthinking.
After my condemnation of Slumberland yesterday I need to pour a little extra positive into today, good thing it’s Thursday!
#1 Halloween costume shopping is well underway. I’m going with 3 totally different costumes, no common theme but they are all fun.
Niamh wants Pocahontas – very easy; dress with fringe that will go to the dress up bin after and I’ll buy brown boots she can wear for the season and embellish with some fringe. Since Pocohantas doesn’t wear shoes in the movie I’m allowed to make that part up because in MN you HAVE to wear shoes…
Zoe switched around a ton but finally settled on an Owl. She has always loved owls and I’ve always wanted to make one of the cool cloak of feathers costumes. I went to the store undecided between fleece and felt. Fleece is washable making the cloak a longer running garment but it tends to be more expensive. Lucky day (kinda) fleece was on sale and the exact same price as felt. For the body I’m making a big ‘sack’ style tunic with elastic at the bottom and top and post-Halloween I’m going to sew up the arm and head holes, add a zipper to the bottom, and voila! A new floor pillow in minky pink and brown.
Fiona wants to be a RED Superhero. Not a specific superhero at all, she has no idea about lava girl and never saw Firestar (who is mostly yellow anyway) so I get to be as creative as I want with hers. Its gong to be the least sewing costume of them all, just a red tutu and I’ll buy pants and a shirt and I already have a cape from SheRa. I’ll be crafting the accessories so that will be fun.
#2 I’m mid-project for upcycling the crib. I hope to finish it up today and I’ve had fun with the puzzle of what hardware to use because my goal is that if we need to, it can be a crib again (but its so useful now!)
#3 In the general category of organizing the garage for winter (and while I’m glad its happening it isn’t exactly fun) I actualy successfully sold this monstrosity on a garage sale site. I got a whole $15 but I’m really just glad its OUT of my life and I smile every time I see the 5 square feet it used to take up empty.
The sins of Slumberland – explanation below
- Coffee table that chips, scratches and looks like trash less than a week out of the box
- Shady sales tactic that push the ‘value’ of a $200 reduction in the form of a merchandise credit
- Lied about quality when asked
- virtually nothing in the store under $200, everything is very overpriced for the quality I experienced
- No reviews on their website – a real indication that they don’t care about the voice of the customer
Bottom line – GO ANYWHERE ELSE THAN SLUMBERLAND
The long version
A few months ago we went mattress shopping. It was long, it was tedious and you know what we found out? There are only so many mattress and LOTS of places sell virtually the same mattress. Oh they might claim to be different mattresses to prevent direct comparison but if you find a mattress you like you can probably find its nearly identical twin at another store near by.
I say this because we were SUCKERED in by a $200 ‘discount’ in the form of a slumberland dollars (usable only at slumberland). We could have gotten a better deal by about $100 at other stores for the same mattress but I was tired of looking and also intrigued by the shiny furniture in the acre of show room.
When we went back to use our $200 we found not only did it have many many restrictions (unsurprising) but there was very little in our style that we actually needed and even less near the $200 mark. We choose a coffee table because our 10 year old table from Target had just started to be unstable and we picked out this table – the Radcliffe Collection Coffee Table in Merlot – and in the store I asked about a small chip I saw in a different/similar coffee table and the sales person said something to the effect that ‘floor models get bashed endlessly, you should be fine’ basically lying to me about the quality of the finish because mine chipped within 3 days and was very chipped and scratched after 10.
They took the table back – kudos to them – but now I’m more or less out $200 on the cost of the mattress because I fell for their incentive. They gave me another credit but seriously, there is nothing there I want because I prefer my furniture to look like it hasn’t spent a year in a frat house. I tried to talk to them, but they did not really want to talk to me so all I can do is hope that I save you from a similar fate by sharing this little story. Make my $200 useful and listen to me – go to Ikea, go to the thrift store, go anywhere else. I hope I cost them far more than 200 in lost sales!
Ps. If Slumberland reads this and actually wants to make this up to me let me know
There are many many reasons I like facebook. The reason I like it today is because yesterday morning a friend posted a semi-mocking post about the upcoming eclipse but hey, that was the first I heard about it. In my defence, I don’t get much time to read news and I don’t like to turn on the news when the kids are around for fear I need to explain what a triple homicide is, or, genocide – we have already had to have some of those discussions but I don’t want to make it a common theme in their life. So if the news does not make facebook or the John Oliver show I don’t see it~ Back to Facebook, I heard there WAS a moon thing and then when I went out for a run I SAW the awesome full moon rise but all I had was my iPhone… I took a few lame pictures and resolved to take a better one but then I got home and it fell out of my head.
Then after dinner, after kids in bed, after my shower I was scrolling my feed and another friend commented on how cool it was that everyone was posting eclipse pictures and I got up off the couch, in my pj’s, and went up on the ladder that happened to be up because I need to roof a bit, and took pictures. None are awesome but it was fun that Lars and I stood at the top of a ladder, leaning on our roof, watching this event. I messed with settings and things and the clouds held until the second half of the event so I have to trust that the moon came back ;)